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Today, we are opening our inbox and answering a few style questions submitted by you our fabulous listeners. Let’s get started.
Hello Gorgias, welcome back to the everyday style school, the podcast that gives real lifestyle advice to real life women. If you’re new here, welcome. I’m your host, Jennifer mcumery, and I’m a wardrobe stylist who’s been dressing everyday women for over 20 years. I’m also the founder of everyday style, where we’re on a mission to inspire women to love the way they look and give you the tools to make getting dressed easy. If you’re a longtime listener, welcome back. Always happy to have you with me every week here at everyday style HQ, we get emails with style questions or suggestions for show topics. And to be really honest with you, most of them don’t become actual episodes. It’s not that I don’t want to cover the things you want to hear about, but it’s hard to make an entire episode about where to find wide fit shoes, if you know what I mean, that’s a two minute conversation. But I thought it would be fun to just take a little peek into our inbox and do a roundup of just a few of the questions we’ve gotten in recent months, I chose five questions that we frequently get or that have wider appeal. A lot of questions we get are really specific to just one person or one situation, which, again, doesn’t make a good podcast episode. But if you need an answer to an individual style question, keep listening, because later, I’m going to share how we can help you too. So here we go. Five listener questions submitted by you. Maybe yours is on the list. Starting off with question number one, where can I find a good quality white t shirt that will last? I’m tired of replacing them every year, and I’m willing to invest more money to get a good one. Oh, girl. The question of where to find the perfect white t shirt is something that I have heard every single time the weather gets warm for literally over 20 years. I feel like this is the sartorial holy grail for a lot of women, and I get it a white tee or a white tank is a summer wardrobe staple. They look fresh and crisp. They go with everything. But finding a good one can be really hard in general, and my style circle members know this, I can’t give advice on where to find the perfect thing for you, because I don’t know your body, your budget, what kind of neckline you’re looking for, all that good stuff. So honestly, I have no idea where you can find the perfect white t shirt. But what I want to address on this one is the idea of a quality white tee you don’t have to replace every year. And my best advice on this one is just give up on the idea. Now do I think you should fill your closet with disposable clothing that you’re constantly replacing? No, absolutely not. But there are things that will stand the test of time better than others and on the spectrum of durability. White T shirts are on the bottom pretty much regardless of how much you spend on them. Summer fabrics in general, they just don’t hold up as well. And white tees take a beating, especially when it comes to looking stained and dingy. You’ve got sunscreen stains and self tanner transfer and sweat stains, barbecue sauce stains, all those good things, all of those are going to wreck a $10 t shirt or a $100 t shirt, and for that reason, I don’t invest in them. I fully support the desire to have a quality, long, lasting wardrobe, but I think you have to know when you’re fighting a losing battle. And to me, finding a white tee that doesn’t need to be replaced often that one’s a losing battle, my advice is to instead focus on finding one you feel good in one where you like the cut and the fabric, the drape, the neckline, all that good stuff. Don’t wear it super frequently. In fact, I always buy a couple of the same style when I find one that I like, so that I can rotate it and it’s not taking such a beating. Also wash it every time you wear it. Most of your clothes shouldn’t be washed every time you wear them, but with white you need to make sure any potential stain causing residue is off of it as quickly as possible. Spot treat anything that’s visible before washing it, and then, at the start of the next warm season, give it a critical eye to see if it held up. If it did great, if not, it’s time to replace it. Keep in mind, this is just my approach, and this is my opinion. You can google stain resistant white teas, and you can find a few brands that swear their teas are immune to all the things that usually. Rec white tees and tanks. I have found the reviews to be mixed. The styling, a lot of them just kind of look like boxy men’s tees. But if this is something you’re really committed to, you should definitely give them a try. For me personally, though I’m going to do the best I can and then just replace fairly frequently. Okay, question number two, I have a small bust, do I really need to spend a lot of money for a good bra on this one, I would say yes and no. Small busted women often feel like because they don’t need as much support, bras aren’t as important for them, and in some ways, that’s true, but in my time as a one on one stylist, almost every single woman I worked with started out in a bad bra, no matter how big or small the girls were, and a bad bra makes everything you wear look less good, let’s just say so in that aspect, yes, every woman needs a good bra, or every woman’s wardrobe can benefit from a good bra. Small busted women are not immune to bra fit issues like straps slipping and cups gaping, and I think often it’s because they feel like you only need a professional fitting if you’ve got big boobs and need more support, and I think a lot of small busted women have never even considered that a good bra can make a difference. But there’s a lot more to bras than just the size. Different shaped breasts need different style bras, and some women do better with wide set straps, while others need center pull straps. The width of the band matters like bras are actually really technical garments. No matter how big or how small your girls are, they’re going to look better in the right bra, and the best way to find that is to go to a place with knowledgeable fitters and a good selection to choose from. So while I don’t think small busted women need to spend as much money on bras as their well endowed sisters. I think there’s a ton of value in having quality bras that fit well, are comfortable to wear, and make you look as good as possible if you haven’t been for a professional fitting, because you don’t think there’s that much to fit. I encourage you to go to Nordstrom or Soma or even a local specialty bra store and just start with a fitting. After that, decide what it’s worth to you. Maybe you’ve been in the right bra all along, great, and then you don’t need to spend more, but maybe, and this is probably what’s more likely to happen, they put you in a good bra, and you’re like, oh my gosh, look at that. It actually does make a difference. And then you can decide how much to spend. All right. Question number three, you’ve mentioned that if a color doesn’t look good with your skin tone, wear it away from your face. Are there other ways to wear colors that aren’t your best without looking washed out, like adding accessories? Great question, and this one is actually pretty easy. No, sorry, there really isn’t much you can do to make colors that don’t look good on you look good on you. Let’s take black, for example. Black is a terrible color on me. Oh my gosh, it washes me out. So bad. If I add a gold necklace to a black sweater, it really doesn’t mitigate the effect. There’s just too much black, no matter how chunky The necklace is. If I wear a good lipstick and more makeup, I might look a little less washed out, but all that super dark, really cool color near my face still dominates. I guess you could add a scarf that’s your best colors, and if enough of the bad color is covered by the good color, this might make a little difference. But we’re not really doing that whole scarf so big it eats your neck and shoulders and chest thing anymore. So now you’ve just traded looking washed out for looking dated. Would you consider that a win? I don’t know that I would. So my best advice here is to decide what’s more important to you, wearing a top or a dress that you love or wearing a color that is conventionally best for you. There isn’t a right answer on that one. It’s simply your priorities. I know black isn’t best for me, obviously, but sometimes I wear it anyway. As of yet, no one has run screaming in horror from the washed out looking lady in the great black outfit. It just doesn’t happen. Would I wear black to have photos done? No. Would I wear black in a video? No. My priority in those situations is to choose things that make me look my best, but other times, I just want the good outfit, and it’s okay not to dress your best and instead just wear what you love.
Question number four, I want to invest in a good pair of ballet flats, but I’m not sure whether I. Should go for a round toe or a pointy toe, which one will look current longer? This is another one. This question, or some version of this question is one we get a lot. So many women are afraid to invest in something they love because they don’t know how long it will be current or trendy or in style, whatever you want to call it. And I wish I could tell you how long your pointy shoes or your wide leg jeans will look current, or how long we will be wearing puffy sleeves, but I simply don’t have the gift of fashion prophecy. I cannot tell the future. If you asked me, in 2008 how long we’d be wearing skinny jeans, I would not have said close to 15 years. Would not have guessed that at all. I know there are people out there whose job it is to forecast trends, but I’m not one of them. So I’m going to tell you what I tell everybody who asked some version of this question, quit worrying about that and only buy things you’ll want to wear for a while, especially if it’s an investment like if you’re buying a pair of $50 trendy shoes because you want to look on trend cool, you probably won’t be devastated if in a couple of years, they don’t look so current. However, if you’re spending $500 on shoes, buy something you’re going to want to wear for a long time, regardless of what’s trending. When it comes to shoes, there are only so many toe shapes, right? There’s round, square, pointed almond, that’s pretty much it. And the truth is, we’re gonna cycle through those four shapes in terms of what’s current. So no matter what you choose, there will be times when you’re on trend and times when you’re not focus more on what’s comfortable for you and what looks best on your feet. Also, don’t go for extremes. If you want a pointed toe, choose a more subtle point instead of that super elongated, witchy looking shoe we were rocking in like 2007 Do you remember that subtlety dates more slowly? Personally, if it’s me, I would opt for like a slight Almonte. I know that wasn’t a choice in the original question, but Chanel ballet flats are one of the most long, lasting, classic, iconic shoes out there, and if it’s good enough for them, it’s good enough for me, but go with what you like, go with what looks good on you, and be prepared for it, not always to be at the height of trendiness. Okay. Last question, number five, I know you’ve talked about your tricky feet, I struggled to find comfortable shoes, and was wondering if you could do an episode on good brands for problem feet. Again, this is a question I get asked a lot, and if my foot issues can help another person on their journey, it will all have been worth it. No, I’m just kidding. It actually sucks to be a wardrobe stylist who can’t have cute shoes, but hey, I am glad to be your problem foot guide. That maybe that’s what I was put on this earth to do. I don’t know. Anyway, one thing you might have heard me say before is that comfortable shoes are not the same thing as comfort shoes. And let me explain the difference. Comfortable shoes are just that shoes that are comfortable on your feet, and this is different for everyone. Going back to the ballet flat thing for a minute, like 100 years ago, all the women in my group were crazy about some brand of ballet flats. I forget which one, and they were all talking about how comfortable they were. I went to the store. I tried them on. They cut right across the top of my foot, you know that spot in a way, that was anything but comfortable. I could not get them off quickly enough, which proves my point that comfortable shoes are completely subjective. What is comfortable to one person not comfortable to another. So if you’re just looking for comfortable shoes, go to the store and put them on your feet. That is the only way you will know what’s comfortable for you. Comfort shoes. On the other hand, are shoes that were designed to be more technically foot friendly, like they have better support or a wider toe box, these things that make them more comfortable. I hope that makes sense. We’re talking in this category about things like Abeo and Dansko Riker, soft Mephisto, they’re usually expensive and they’re sold in specialty stores, and let’s be totally honest, they’re not always really stylish. When you are dealing with real problem feet, what you’re probably looking for is comfort shoes. Even with comfort shoes, though all feet are not created equal, and all foot issues are not created equal. Like I said, I get asked this question a lot. I understand why people ask me this, but while I know what I need for my challenges, I don’t know what you need for yours. It. Is so, so important if you have tricky feet, that you understand exactly what to look for, and that starts with a conversation with your doctor, not with a stylist. Most women I know with tricky feet, they just buy shoes hoping something will work, and they often end up really frustrated and wasting a lot of money, but once you know what to look for and what to avoid, you’re going to be a lot more successful in finding the perfect pair that works for you. And honestly, I think that’s a lesson that you can apply to your entire wardrobe. There you have it. A peek inside our inbox. I hope you learned something that will help make it easier to get dressed and build a wardrobe that you love. If your question wasn’t answered, here, I promised I’d share how you can get the individual style help you need. One of the biggest benefits of the style circle membership is the personal feedback that you get, and we do it in a couple of ways, first of all, through our monthly style chats. These are totally open Ask Me Anything sessions where you can submit a style question in advance or in the live zoom session, and I will answer it to the best of my ability. We post the video replay so you can watch it on your own time, and we post the audio in our private podcast feed, so you can even take me with you on the go with you, whether in your car or on a walk, whatever. Then we have our monthly member coaching, where I go more in depth on just one subject, like body shape analysis or outfit feedback. On this one, you get to hop on zoom with me and we talk through your situation to help you become an expert in dressing yourself. Replays for those are also posted because you would be amazed by what you can learn from hearing others talk through their own challenges. If you need a place to ask, how does this dress look on me, or even, where
can I find wide fit shoes?
Our community is the place to do it, whether it’s me or one of our hundreds of kind stylish Members, we’re going to make sure no question goes unanswered and that you get the help that you need. We would love to have you join us. You can head over to the show notes for the link, and I will see you next time. Until then, remember that your everyday matters, so
get dressed for it,
and that’s a wrap. Thank you for listening today. If you’re loving the everyday style school podcast, I’d like to invite you to become a member of the style circle. It’s our monthly all access membership that gives you everything we create to make style easy so you can save time and money, have easier mornings and more confidence all day long. You get our seasonal capsule wardrobe guides, all of the master classes we offer, and our exclusive members only podcast, the everyday style school, extra credit, plus you’re invited to the Facebook community, where you can get even more style support and inspiration. I would love to get to know you and support your style journey. It’s just $19 a month less than the cost of a clearance shirt you’re never going to wear. Come join me and make your everyday style easier.

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